Change is good overall, but it can also be a very tumultuous process. Right now, I am personally experiencing the difficult part. This past weekend I graduated from The University of Alabama, and I am finally taking the time to reflect and feel all the emotions. I know many people are also going through a similar experience whether it is due to graduation or another big life transition, so I wanted to share how I am managing my mental health during this time.
- The first thing I am doing is loving on those around me. While this may seem a bit counterproductive if your transition requires leaving people, it is still crucial to soak up the last few memories. I know I have cherished my senior year with my best friends, and by being extra intentional these past few months, I am more confident that these friendships will last beyond four years. Further, leaning on the people that have been continuous supporters in my life, has been so helpful. Knowing my family will be there for me in the next chapter has eased anxiety about the future. I encourage everyone to identify those that will be there no matter what and especially keep connected with them.
- Next, I think it is important to take some time to be alone. Reflecting can be extremely therapeutic. While it can be scary to spend time with all the thoughts bouncing around in your mind, it is through introspection you can become more okay and even excited about what is to come. Looking back at all the good things allows you not to take for granted the lessons you have learned or the memories you have made. On the other hand, dreaming about the future gives you something to look forward to. I typically like to focus on the little things like the fact that I will be able to explore new restaurants or cool museums. It is these smaller joys that really make me happy to be going somewhere new.
- Healthy distractions are okay and even necessary. I totally believe distracting yourself can be a completely appropriate way to cope. Of course, as with everything, moderation is important. Neglecting responsibilities can lead to greater feelings of being overwhelmed, but some distraction can give your brain the break it needs. Therefore, if going shopping or taking a vacation will allow you to refresh your mood, then you should indulge. I am blessed to have the opportunity to travel to Europe this summer, and my busy itinerary will certainly keep my mind off all the stress that comes with moving to a new city in the Fall.
- The future is beautiful even if you don’t know it yet. As someone who often struggles with control, the unknown is undoubtably scary. Thus, I have to remind myself to have faith. Everything happens for a reason, and while I can’t predict everything I must have confidence that my own abilities will allow me to overcome any obstacles I might face. I know when I think back to even just a few years ago I would have never imagined just how spectacular my college experience was, and I find solace in the fact that a similar story will likely be true after this next adventure.
While these pieces of advice might not be mind blowing or completely utterly life changing, they are things that have made graduating a little bit easier on me, and I hope they might help you too. Life is full of transitions, but as cliche as it might seem, when one door closes another one opens. The world is full of opportunities and experiences just waiting to be seized. I believe everything will be okay and even better than I might expect. By getting through a time of sadness and anxiety, people build resilience, and by practicing self-care and positive thinking, you will come out of any period of transition stronger. As always monitoring your mental health should be a top priority, and I hope everyone feels comfortable seeking professional support when it is needed. In general, here’s to a wonderful next step in this thing we call life!
Thank you so much for reading and happy Mental Health Awareness month!! I hope you have great summer. We will be taking a break in July from our bi-monthly uploads, but be sure to check this site in September for the next new blog post.